Texted him..Feeling stupid right now

[Lulu1]

Hiya Guys, I need some advice. Eurgh I feel so silly! It’s been 4 months since the guy I was dating (bpd) and I went separate ways. 3 months since we last spoke.
Something reminded me on Tuesday of his young child and I messaged him. Didn’t say it warranted a reply or anything. Just wanted to make sure he was ok. (Why I'd care I don’t know) 5 mins later he replied; Civil. Said ‘thanks for reaching out’ and added a kiss and a photo of his kid & him.
We exchanged a few messages then that was it. I didn’t get the ‘reaching out’ part. Sounds almost like he was expecting a text some day, as if I was in the wrong ? I've heard nothing since..

[Lucky Jim]

Hey Lulu, Don't beat yourself up!  Next time, maybe you could pause before texting and look at your feelings in a mindful way before acting on them.  What would you like to see happen?  Are you ready to move on or would you be interested in a recycle?  It's your call.

LuckyJim

[Rev]

Hey Lulu, Don't beat yourself up!  Next time, maybe you could pause before texting and look at your feelings in a mindful way before acting on them.  What would you like to see happen?  Are you ready to move on or would you be interested in a recycle?  It's your call.

LuckyJim

Ditto - wouldn't change a word of this advice from LJ

[gizmocasci]

Ditto - wouldn't change a word of this advice from LJ

This!

Sending you love and hugs.

[cosmical]

I reached out too with a similar message. I convinced myself that I was just being caring, but infact I was looking for an opening to get some answers/closure. Have to try really hard to be honest with yourself.

[ArtistGuy70]

My heart aches for you. I've been there. Don't beat yourself up over it. Learn from it and say, okay that was my last text. Be kind to yourself.

[Forgiveness]

I would add that "Thanks for reaching out" is a normal response that a normal non-BPD person would make. It means thanks for reaching out, that is all.