Day to day-staying out of trouble with my wife

[Depression = 72% of members]

I am brand new to this site. I have been married to the same girl for 40 plus years. I am 64, so I have never not-been with my wife. Therefore I don't know what it's like to live a "sane" exsistance. I have been near divorce countless times. We have separated a number of times. I love my wife an d now-realize that she is sick. I don't want to leave...but I need tips in our day to day life. I have just purchased the audio book and that will help, but it's also overwhelming. I need some "cut to the chase" points.

[Jambi]

I am brand new to this site. I have been married to the same girl for 40 plus years. I am 64, so I have never not-been with my wife. Therefore I don't know what it's like to live a "sane" exsistance. I have been near divorce countless times. We have separated a number of times. I love my wife an d now-realize that she is sick. I don't want to leave...but I need tips in our day to day life. I have just purchased the audio book and that will help, but it's also overwhelming. I need some "cut to the chase" points.

[RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM SOLVING]

RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM SOLVING This is a high level discussion board for solving ongoing, day-to-day relationship conflicts. Members are welcomed to express frustration but must seek constructive solutions to problems. This is not a place for relationship "stay" or "leave" discussions. Please read the specific guidelines for this group.

[Face of Melinda]

I think the first strategy which you probably know is to not get sucked in to a spinning rant that goes nowhere... Allow there to be a distance, walk away from a battle within ten minutes, and when there's disrespect, say, Don't talk to me like that. I don't like it. No excuse for abuse. I hope things get better for you!