Hi tucker316
I'm joining
zachira in welcoming you to our online community
Sorry to hear you are having these difficulties with your dad, but also your siblings. Based on the behavior your dad exhibits, you believe he has BPD. How would you describe your siblings' behaviors?
You mention how you are viewed within the family. How do your siblings generally treat you?
You already have quite a lot on your plate now with your job, and protecting your own well-being definitely is crucial. I like to echo
zachira, setting and enforcing/defending boundaries is essential for preserving your own well-being. Boundaries can be set verbally, but also non-verbally. By changing your own behavior and responses, you will also signal and communicate certain boundaries even when you haven't verbalized them.
Do you you feel comfortable setting boundaries with your dad and siblings?
When you receive emails from your dad claiming 'that you don't love him', what do you normally do? Do you respond at all, and if you do, how do you usually respond?
Take care
The Board Parrot