Separated and pregnant

[Depression = 72% of members]

Two counselors recently pointed out that they believe my husband has BPD. My life blew up three months ago when my husband decided our whole marriage was terrible and everything was my fault. He had an emotional affair at work, which he admits and then goes back into denial about. I am almost ready to give birth (due Nov 29). We are currently separated and living together. We have a formal contract. My husband has said our marriage is a cage and he feels trapped. He is to determine by Dec 16 whether I am a cage and we will divorce or he wants to be married to me. It feels ways more complicated after discovering he has BPD and with the baby coming. I’m depressed and lost. I am reading all of the material I can. This is devastating. I am a Christian and have a good support group.

[Ashes Beauty]

Two counselors recently pointed out that they believe my husband has BPD. My life blew up three months ago when my husband decided our whole marriage was terrible and everything was my fault. He had an emotional affair at work, which he admits and then goes back into denial about. I am almost ready to give birth (due Nov 29). We are currently separated and living together. We have a formal contract. My husband has said our marriage is a cage and he feels trapped. He is to determine by Dec 16 whether I am a cage and we will divorce or he wants to be married to me. It feels ways more complicated after discovering he has BPD and with the baby coming. I’m depressed and lost. I am reading all of the material I can. This is devastating. I am a Christian and have a good support group.

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[Cat Familiar]

How are you? I assume you’ve had the baby. Any changes in your husband. I’m glad you have a good support group.