Both with BPD

[Bpdtimes2]

I came across this site while googling support for BPD I'm guessing I may be a little different as both myself and partner are diagnosed with BPD. Is there anyone else that has been in this situation.
Our relationship is crazy, chaotic, unpredictable, addictive, toxic, sometimes violent, abusive. But it's also the most deepest level of understanding I've ever had with anyone in my life.
I know it's an unhealthy relationship yet fear the thought of not having it. I'm really not sure what I'm trying t get across just wondering if there is anyone in a similar situation and how you handle the moments of madness.

Thanks

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[Cat Familiar]

I wasn’t diagnosed with anything when I was with my former husband with BPD, but I suspect that I was extremely codependent. We had a rule that only one of us could be crazy at a time. (Unfortunately it was usually him.)