I know that I should be moving on and I know it’s not in my best interest to have contact with my untreated BPD ex, but I cant help but wonder why he hasn't contacted me in 2 months? What are your guesses as to why he hasn’t contacted? Do they ever get back in touch?
Hi HealingTee, I know how painful it can be in that situation having gone 2.5 months without contact from my BPDw.
I do know that pwBPD tend to "switch" between their loved ones being "all good" or "all bad". The "all good" phases of the relationships feel amazing... the "all bad" not so much. My BPDw once told me that she has a switch in her head, and once she turns it off the other person means nothing to her. I've seen her use that "switch" dozens of times. It could be your BPDex has the same type of relationship switch. I've read a few threads similar to this, and from what I can tell it appears to be 50/50 that they will contact 3-24 months later. Two years is the longest I've seen, though I'm sure some have gone longer.
Have you asked yourself if you want him back in your life? What are you doing to take care of yourself during this time?
