Am I able to deal with it ?

[Taikwaitau]

We had been with each other for 9 years, I am 17 years older than him.. I am a mother of 2 adults children. I always think he is just being jealous with my love to my kids, but finally I realized that this is BPD actually impacted our relationship. We just separated, I want to talk with him, but each time I was being hurt by his curse, blame... He had a tough childhood, but I am already 58, I don’t know if I am able to handle and deal with this. I am also a breast cancer survivor for 10 years. Don’t know how to move on, please help !

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[pursuingJoy]

It's so hard to love someone and want to talk to them, but you can't because the situation is volatile and everyone is upset. I wouldn't want to deal with the cursing and blaming either.

You say you just separated? How long ago? How did you find out about BPD?

We'll support you in any way you can. You're a cancer survivor, and you survived a difficult relationship. I have no doubt that you'll survive this too. You're stronger than you know!

You're not alone.