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[Wanderlust79]

My sister is almost 40 and for the last 10 years at least, myself and my mum have been her emotional punchbag. She constantly throws everything back at us, berates all we do, criticises, and makes herself out to be the victim. The verbal abuse from her takes my breath away. I have hundreds of texts from her that I would be ashamed to show anyone because they are so aggressive.  She constantly compares herself to me, stating I am the favourite child and that I have been treated differently to her. That our parents do more for me than her. That we had a terrible childhood  (we didn't). That I am toxic and my mum is evil. It is utterly horrendous.  She also has 3 children and uses them to manipulate us as she knows we will want to spend time with them.  She is a compulsive liar and I constantly feel I'm walking on egg shells. If she wasn't my sister I would have walked away years ago.

[WalkbyFaith]

Hello Wanderlust. I'm so sorry you are going through this with your sister. I'm glad you found this forum and hope you find the support you need here. Having a family relationship with someone who emotionally and verbally abuses is so exhausting. Finding people who understand is really helpful!

[Mommydoc]

Welcome Wanderlust79. Welcome to this board. I could probably copy and paste your post as my experience. I have grown a lot by reading the resources and sharing my circumstances on this board.  Some peoples experiences  will be different, some will be eerily similar, but we can each learn and grow from interacting here. Are you facing a specific circumstance you need help navigating right now?