FYI: Interesting and helpful / hopeful article -
https://danielsplacecfh.com/new-blog-1/relational-trauma"Little has been written and studied about the unique struggles and healing processes of those in relationships with personality disordered individuals, despite the plethora of research aimed at exploring the epidemiology and treatment of those diagnosed with the disorder. This is especially unfortunate because while personality disordered individuals tend to lack insight and therefore, a sense of personal responsibility, those who relate with BPDs tend to be insightful, self-reflective, analytical and overly conscientious. This can result in the development of chronic self-doubt in a non-PD partner, family member or friend, leading to feelings of low self-concept, a loss of identity, depression and anxiety.
However, due to their sharp insight and curious self-reflection and analysis, this population tends to make excellent progress in therapeutic treatment. By exploring their codependent roles, non-PD partners may learn why they attracted a partner who is personality disordered and why they remained in the relationship despite suffering abuse and/or neglect. Through the course of treatment, they develop self-respect and assertiveness skills, establishing and reinforcing their boundaries to protect their rights and needs, a practice they may struggle to master due to being ‘others’ focused during the course of their relationship, to the point of sacrificing themselves. With commitment to change, effort, and time, non- PD partners can enjoy a healthy self-concept, assertive communication, and healthy, loving relationships."
