New grandma and heartbroken

[HeartbrokenGma]

Just realizing my daughter in law may have BPD.  Our first grandchild was born a few weeks ago and it has been absolutely a terrible experience.  I’m heartbroken and don’t know when we will ever see the baby.  I am in contact with my son, he sends pictures and keeps me updated, but she wants nothing to do with me because I finally spoke up for myself and told her she was been rude.  Now I’m the one that caused drama and she is not willing to discuss anything. I was so excited to be a grandma and now I’m just totally overwhelmed.  Will it get any better? 

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Turkish]

What rude behaviors led to you speaking up?