My ex pwBPD has sent a text about possibly going to access emergency mental health services but then quickly sent another text saying it was meant for someone else.
Do I reply? If yes, what do I say?
Banana91,
Welcome to BPD Family.
Since she is an 'ex' and indicated the text was misdirected to you, take it at 'face value' that it was misdirected to you. It might be an attempt to draw you back into her 'drama'. You are not responsible for her (unless she is the mother of your children, and then it is limited to the children's welfare).
If the FOG (Fear, Obligation, Guilt) is really getting to you, you could consider discreetly checking in on her (without her knowledge) to make sure she is safe. if you have any 'common' friends/acquaintances or if she posts on social media, check her accounts for any update if she is going to 'grippy sock' vacation/hotel/land/jail a common neurodivergent term for being institutionalized for a mental evaluation.
If she contacts you again, suggest that she call 911 if she is in immediate danger, or 988 if she is in emotional crisis. If she prefers text 988 or 741741 if she is in any kind of mental health crisis.
Be sure to take care of yourself with self-care, whatever that might look like for you.
Take care with self-care.
SD