FAQ: Is BPD a spectrum disorder? Can there be "BPD lites"?

[BPDFamily.com]

I igured as much, but I jast wanted to see if anyone else understood what I have observed in life. Good to know I am not being silly.

By no means, the hit_ of the decease is to define it, but you know inside what the truth is.

I spend 4 years thinking doubting if something was really wrong now that its over I can look at it all with some distance and go: "wauw, that was pretty crazy".

Love is truly blinding, but I knew inside nonetheless, I knew and so do you.

Man, I'm a pretty smart stable 36 year old guy but here I was calling people to ask them for confirmation: "hey, what do you think when a woman does this, is that normal?"

And they just go: "are you serious, that's completely insane".

[El Greco]

I igured as much, but I jast wanted to see if anyone else understood what I have observed in life. Good to know I am not being silly.

By no means, the hit_ of the decease is to define it, but you know inside what the truth is.

I spend 4 years thinking doubting if something was really wrong now that its over I can look at it all with some distance and go: "wauw, that was pretty crazy".

Love is truly blinding, but I knew inside nonetheless, I knew and so do you.

Man, I'm a pretty smart stable 36 year old guy but here I was calling people to ask them for confirmation: "hey, what do you think when a woman does this, is that normal?"

And they just go: "are you serious, that's completely insane".

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[FoolishOne]

El Greco:

We all did the same thing bro... .we all drank the Kool Aid. 

[Randi Kreger]

To sidestep this confusion (it gets confusing when you speak to a cinical person) we used the more discrete term "hidden borderline" in our video.Skippy[/quote]
I call them "invisible" BPs in Essential Family Guide. Next, I will call them high conflict personalities because the comorbidity of NPD and BPD is about 37%.

[freedom22]

Hello,

Is is common for someone with BPD to accuse their spouse of having BPD?

If anyone on here is a professional in this area, I would really appreciate facts.  I am not able to find anything online to answer this question.

Thanks!

[El Greco]

Hello,

Is is common for someone with BPD to accuse their spouse of having BPD?

If anyone on here is a professional in this area, I would really appreciate facts.  I am not able to find anything online to answer this question.

Thanks!

Yes it is, very typical.

They project a lot, mirroring, anything to come to the heart of the matter so they even look on the net or whatever to tell you what's wrong with you.

They read the stuff that's wrong with them, they see the classifications and project them on to you.

That's how crazy BPD can be.

[FoolishOne]

My stbxBPDw not only accused me of having BPD, but her previous husband as well (the guy that she cheated on me with when we were dating and eventually married... .lasted less than a year).

[Lumpy_]

I think it's a matter of personality. After all, everyone is different, regardless of whether or not they share the same disease. My mother is definitely a high functioning, raging BPD. I on the otherhand (I was also diagnosed with this 2 years ago) do not rage, am otherwise low-functioning and have maintained a healthy relationship for almost 4 years. As another poster described of his partner, I have NEVER cheated on anybody, invaded my partner's privacy, lied, abused him etc. I do not have it in me to hurt the one I love most.

Any pain I do feel is all internalised. Whether or not you would consider this a 'less severe' form of BPD I don't know!