Bizarre Behavior: input please

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

I'm rewriting from a previous post. For hit_s and giggles really... .

Four months out. We have text  communication and I leave lines of communication open. Begining of this month, she assumes I've met someone... I haven't. Have a feeling she went to FB or something and I never, ever show the pit I am in, the pain... it's always light and uplifting... so I have "assume" she went digging. May have found me on some dating sites merely looking for "friends" and it stated so.

Rageful text from her begining of month, name calling: coward, liar, theif, ridiculous, stupid, looking for women and said you werent, why are you on dating sites then, you are so full of hit_, HOW do you know where I live (she is 8 miles from me and TOLD me two months prior-and NO I dont' go there it was brought up in text a few weeks prior and she was "oh"... that was it)... the barrage was sickening. Thought she was drinking because THAT is usually when this happens, but hard to tell in text.

Next thing I know, she texts: I am getting a new phone and number.

I tell her, "do what you have to do. the lines were open for discussion"

She does. Blocks her old pay as you go phone... and I hear nothing from her. Zip. Nada. For two weeks. YET... is this off balance or what?

She calls my cell late at night when she gets a new phone, just shy of the two weeks and leaves the number with no msg. You know, call and hang up and her number shows up. I only know this because my gut told me it was her with a call that late. I block my cell number and call it the next day... sure enough it's her.

So... why change it and then leave the number? NO, I have not heard from her at all... .just asking... bizarre.

[OverBoard]

I'm rewriting from a previous post. For hit_s and giggles really... .

Four months out. We have text  communication and I leave lines of communication open. Begining of this month, she assumes I've met someone... I haven't. Have a feeling she went to FB or something and I never, ever show the pit I am in, the pain... it's always light and uplifting... so I have "assume" she went digging. May have found me on some dating sites merely looking for "friends" and it stated so.

Rageful text from her begining of month, name calling: coward, liar, theif, ridiculous, stupid, looking for women and said you werent, why are you on dating sites then, you are so full of hit_, HOW do you know where I live (she is 8 miles from me and TOLD me two months prior-and NO I dont' go there it was brought up in text a few weeks prior and she was "oh"... that was it)... the barrage was sickening. Thought she was drinking because THAT is usually when this happens, but hard to tell in text.

Next thing I know, she texts: I am getting a new phone and number.

I tell her, "do what you have to do. the lines were open for discussion"

She does. Blocks her old pay as you go phone... and I hear nothing from her. Zip. Nada. For two weeks. YET... is this off balance or what?

She calls my cell late at night when she gets a new phone, just shy of the two weeks and leaves the number with no msg. You know, call and hang up and her number shows up. I only know this because my gut told me it was her with a call that late. I block my cell number and call it the next day... sure enough it's her.

So... why change it and then leave the number? NO, I have not heard from her at all... .just asking... bizarre.

[2010]

I bet you'd get a better answer on the "staying" board.

[GlennT]

Why are you playing the game? You can't win. She is mentally ill. Abandonment issues are strong with these folks. Even if they are with someone else. Manipulators, parasites, emotional vampires. Don't give them any more of your life and dignity.