I need some advice

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

I was accused again of something I did not do and it has been three weeks with no contact from him. He told me he could not trust me and he needed time. He has done this three other times... Most lasting from 2 - 4 months. He has in the past jumped on a dating site and I have played the stupid game of following him on to make him jealous. I have not checked this time if he is on the site, but I am sure he is. I do not want to do this again. I feel my best option in to just disappear off the radar and not do anything. We have been togther for 10 years and this has happened 4 times with the same pattern each time. I am sick from this... Some advice?

[jhr1131]

I was accused again of something I did not do and it has been three weeks with no contact from him. He told me he could not trust me and he needed time. He has done this three other times... Most lasting from 2 - 4 months. He has in the past jumped on a dating site and I have played the stupid game of following him on to make him jealous. I have not checked this time if he is on the site, but I am sure he is. I do not want to do this again. I feel my best option in to just disappear off the radar and not do anything. We have been togther for 10 years and this has happened 4 times with the same pattern each time. I am sick from this... Some advice?

[Surnia]

jhr1131

I feel with you. 

You are recognizing clearly the pattern. You did not checked the dating site. Looks like you are detaching which is healthy. 

I would agree to do nothing to reach out for him.

What you can do: Taking inventory about the relationship. Is this the rs you want? What is good and healthy what not? So that you come slowly to a decision.