RAged at by step-mother

[sea5045]

I know some of you know my story, but my ex moved back after being out of state for two years, and infiltrated my family, by becoming friends with my step-mother's male friend who was 75. He sent her sexual emails, money, baseball tickets... .  

because I caused "people to be uncomfortable" by letting them know I was upset about it I was disinvited for thanksgiving by my step-mom's sister who yelled at me and hung up on me.

I worked for Christmas... and then  I was supposed to get together with my step-mom for New Years. Well I was behind on a car payment and she called raging at me, was horribly abusive and finally from deep down inside a wee little voice quietly said

"Your friends and family have treated me pretty shabby this year, I will transfer the car loan into my name and then be out of your lives". She also hung up on me. This was the first time I was behind in five years, and finally I just walked away from it all. I absorbed all this crap, have been painted black by me ex, and finally I just realized after all I've done for the last two years, I like myself, and I don't have to take the verbal abuse because they can't say I'm sorry, I mishandled that, or whatever eilicits all that rage.

My therapist told me she was proud of me because they had been treating me atrociously... poor boundaries, colluding behind my back with my ex, not standing up to the idiot man who pursued my ex...

so it is sad but I am functioning better... .  and realize I am a good person, who deserves integrity and honesty in all my relationships.  It is not very painful... I realize I am afraid of my step-mom and it is for the best to lower her stress level and to detach with love... .  wow... .  Sea