Double standards

[lost not dead]

     I have read a few post that people mention this in but I wondered how common it is. I set myself to what I consider a very high standard and appreciate when others treat me with the same respect. My Ex BPDw would become infuriated with me asking her to show me some respect. She would go out to clubs with her friends while I stayed home. She would curse at me for my house not being spotless. I was not allowed to bring up any past transgressions but she could all she wanted. We have lived apart for 5 years and I have finally found peace by not making mine and the kids life revolve around her but she has put us out of site out of mind for all this time and now rages for us moving on. It makes me nuts. I have lived my life with the motto "if I have enough to survive I am happy. Anything more is a blessing". I know it is about their needs but can't the rules at least be fair and even. I need to  hear others experiences to make me feel less crazy.

[armsreach]

Yes, there are a lot of double standards in my r/s.  Probably a lot more than I realize, because once i read this post, a lot of examples came to mind of things I'd thought I had forgotten.

[FoolishOne]

Double standards must bein the Ten Commandments of BPD.  I know my BPDw (hopefully stbx) wreaks of them.  I call it the "Princess Syndrome", but it's still the same.  They feel entitled and therefore are not subject to the same rules that the rest of us are.  It was one of the many nails in our marriage coffin.

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