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Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse... Have you considered that being critical, judgmental, or invalidating toward the other parent, no matter what she or he just did will only make matters worse? Someone has to be do something. This means finding the motivation to stop making things worse, learning how to interrupt your own negative responses, body language, facial expressions, voice tone, and learning how to inhibit your urges to do things that you later realize are contributing to the tensions.
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« on: February 16, 2013, 08:45:36 PM »

It has been four months out of a r/s with a woman with cPTSD that looked/felt just like BPD - may have had both and other PDs.

There I go again Laugh out loud (click to insert in post) ... .  focusing on her. What about me? How the heck did I get into something like this?

At the end of the day the r/s has taken me into a new realm of recovery (4 years sober, 8 clean). I have started working ACoA and CoDA. I have read a dozen amazing books.

Two quick thoughts to share:

I am powerless over other people

No one can make me feel bad about myself unless I give them permission.

Glad to be on this board now ... .  looking forward to the inventory.
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« Reply #1 on: February 17, 2013, 06:41:59 AM »

Welcome Nolisan.

Doing the right thing (click to insert in post)
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