It has been four months out of a r/s with a woman with cPTSD that looked/felt just like BPD - may have had both and other PDs.
There I go again

... . focusing on her. What about me? How the heck did I get into something like this?
At the end of the day the r/s has taken me into a new realm of recovery (4 years sober, 8 clean). I have started working ACoA and CoDA. I have read a dozen amazing books.
Two quick thoughts to share:
I am powerless over other people
No one can make me feel bad about myself unless I give them permission.
Glad to be on this board now ... . looking forward to the inventory.