Irony

[Scott44]

6 months ago my ex wife told me not to contact her or she would call the police.  And I know she would too.

The irony is how many times I could have called the police, like every time she physically left marks on my body. 

Anyone else have a physically abusive SO with BPD?  If so, would you advise reporting to the police?  In hindsight I think I should have had her arrested.  She got away with so much and lives without any consequences.  Nobody knows what she has done.  She is the poor woman whose ex husband had an emotional affair.

[Sabine]

  Scott44,

I'm sorry you were hurt... .  but it's been six months and you're out, try not to reenact all the scenarios in your head. Yes, they cause a lot of pain, both physical and emotional, but some people don't get out and that's the real tragedy.

My ex wasn't physically abusive but he could have been if I stayed. It got to the point where he threw things at me while in his final verbal rage and that was bad enough!

After I left him and blocked him from my life, I made it a point not to smear him to others because I've learned from members here early on that you never really 'win' by doing that. The best way to 'win' is to never give them any ammo or attention whatsoever! They will always play the 'victim'. Always.

I'm sure that in time it will all fade and you'll be a better person for it! 

[j4c]

My advice would be to just let it go mate. Im not condoning whatever injuries you've sustained but dragging up the past can only end in more tears for you. You've obviously got frustrations regarding whats gone on but i see no good to come out of involving the authorities months after certain incidents took place. PwBPD are also people you dont wanna upset - for example false rape charges etc as a form of revenge. Do you really need that kind of grief in your life?

When you say no-one knows what she has done is this the main thing thats irritating you? That you feel shes got away with the abuse you suffered? My ex wasnt physically abusive with me but she was full of rage & anger resulting in emotional and verbal abuse! To this day none of her friends or family know what shes really like and i wanted so many times to shout from the rooftops how screwed up she was but those feelings died away with time. I just knew the truth in my own head and I also know the truth about her disorder will be unmasked eventually so ive made my peace with that.