Manipulation

[Mara2]

Lately my husband has been trying different ways to elicit what he wants as a response from me.  About a week ago we were driving home and he was telling me about something benign (I forget what now) and out of no where he starts on this thing about how I showed him how easy it was for him to lose his family because if he doesn't tow the line then I will call the police.  I did call the police and he was arrested last year when he became violent and suicidal.  Immediately I was very angry that he would try to make this my fault (yes, I know what is happening, still mad)  and since then he has been dropping jibes and taunts reminding me of things that have happened where I have learned to respond in a healthy way rather than co-dependant way and he did not like it. 

I hate it when he tells me that I am a wonderful wife and do lots of things for him but I lack affection.  I hate it when he starts dropping mean comments and then accuses me of unloving behavior because I will not submit and give him a hug, which is what he really wants.  Who wants to hug that?  Add to that I tried it and got pushed off because I did it wrong.  No winning. 

Added to this is that he is trying to detox from Methadone (pain management) and I don't know what is from withdrawl and what is from BPD/PTSD. 

Feeling pretty devastated now.

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[Somewhere]

Added to this is that he is trying to detox from Methadone (pain management) and I don't know what is from withdrawl and what is from BPD/PTSD.  

We have some of that weird around here.  Mrs. Somewhere has been back from Re-hab a couple months (eating disorder this time, but been through Alcohol, Drugs, Cutting, etc.) and really all they did was take away the coping mechanism, and leave her with the emo mess.

But towards your question -- whether This or That.  Really seems to be all tied in together, all at once.  Clinical Term is Co-Morbidity.

Feeling pretty devastated now.

I have come to look at it as a hardware brain disorder -- sort of is, once you get in the chemical and brain (dys) function tied into all this -- so like if they had a stroke, or autism, or whatever.  Not much personal on you or them in that.