On another note pwBPD are not stable structured people, hence they admire those qualities in other people that they lack themselves (even if they dont openly admit it). So the more you are affected by the disorder and the more you are absorbed by the disorder the more you become like them and the less you become what they would aspire to be, and the less desirable you are.
You need to stay the contrast to their disorder, or you will be nothing to aspire to.
This is so interesting, wave. pwBPD try so hard to get us triggered so we act like we're the crazy ones. But at the same time, they don't respect us when we do that.
Yep and thats were it falls apart if you live your life reactively trying to fit around them. You need to get yourself grounded and stable before anything can change.
They dont like themselves so if you ended up becoming more like them, why would they respect you? Why do they want you to be more like them then? Because they dont want to be alone in crazy town, so if you are there it "normalizes' and validates them, but not in a constructive way.
This is the problem with BPD, the coping methods are usually destructive rather than constructive, as they have difficulty stringing cause and effect together
