I'm committed to this,just hope I can handle the ride

[Alternative48]

Well!,the last few days have been yet another eye opener for me.my partner,after two months of madness,pushing me away,meeting with an exe,deciding they want to"give it a go",then falling out big style with her,is now talking to me and wanting to meet up,yet still going through a rather acrimonious split with the other woman.dont get me wrong.i truly do understand the behaviour and understand mental health issues(my last partner was bi-polar... .  yes I do know how to pick them),its just that sometimes its so hard not to revert back to"normal " behaviour,the behaviour that our natural instincts tell us.i havnt yet and I'm hoping i don't either.the last few days have been very up and down mood wise.going from almost manic and overly happy to down,depressed and self harming,oh and the pill taking.he told me the other night that even though he wanted to see what would happen with her he knew that he would always come back to me.he described it as "coming home"saying that he knew that there was no one else out there that could make him feel the way i did and understand and make him feel comfortable in his own skin.im trying so hard to take in all the information that ive read. Lastnight was so hard though.he was a little quiet lastnight.no txt messages or calls.i messaged and said that i was going to sleep and gott a message back saying"quick"I rang.i had a feeling i knew what he was going to say.sure enough he had drunk loads of alcohol and taken 6 zopiclone and had tried self harming,but pronounced himself a coward as he wasnt drunk enough to do anything substantial.he was very low,full of self loathing and wishing that he could just end it. He said if it wasnt for me it would have been much worse.he then told me he had taken a total of 12 zopiclone.i talked to him until he passed out.today I will get a picture of his self ha and he will say that he doesn't remember lastnight.its always the same.what do I do?.

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[Rockylove]

... .  even though he wanted to see what would happen with her he knew that he would always come back to me.he described it as "coming home"saying that he knew that there was no one else out there that could make him feel the way i did and understand and make him feel comfortable in his own skin.

if this his his pattern, he knows that he can go off and do as he pleases but the "other women" aren't going to put up with his behavior and he'll always have you to fall back on... .  if you allow it.

Wishing you much strength to hang tight on the roller coaster ride.

[Grey Kitty]

Sounds like a couple really tough situations you're into now.

One is the thing with the ex... .  and there you really can't control him.

The other one is drinking, drugs, and threats of self-injury. That sounds scary. You may need to involve police or other authorities to protect him from himself there.

Talking about suicide is always serious.

[briefcase]

He needs some professional treatment for the self-harm and threats.  Encourage him to speak to his doctor or therapist when he gets that way.  It's not right that he is placing this burden on you.  Your goal should be to get him into a professional ASAP when he calls you like that.  The convenient "forgetting" about the episode in the morning should not let him off the hook - he needs to be evaluated.  

If you feel there is a true emergency, you can tell him that you are calling the police . . . and then do it.