So for all of you following/not following. My ex called me again a little over a week ago with the i miss yous, i love yous, and apologies for everything she did wrong, crying etc.
I was in a meeting
work and my phone started ringing off the hook, looked at it, it was her sisters cell. I know the call pattern, repeated calls = my ex calling.
Got out of the meeting listened to the two voicemails. Immediately I could tell she was drinking. It is her sisters 22nd bday today. Lots of "hey baby just wanted to call and see how you are doing", "xxxx says hello" xxx = the name of a big time tweaker that feeds her meth. Same general crap in the second voicemail, saying to call me back she wants to hear from me... .
I have no desire to call her back when she's drinking / using. Not to mention inbetween the last phone call from last week she slept with two different really ugly (using) "just friends"... .
She has no idea what's in store for her in 2 1/2 weeks. Her domestic violence review hearing is coming up... . and after extensive talks with the DA about her relapse, newly instigated violence against me, etc... . He is planning on revoking probation and is pressing for lengthy jail time. I think I'll just wait 2 1/2 weeks for the outcome then start sending her letters. It's the only thing I think will make her hit bottom.
I'm beyond done with
[url=https://bpdfamily.com/content/communication-skills-validation]validation[/b][/url] at this point. Once again I want to give her a piece of my mind on how disgusting her behavior is, but it would be lost on her while she's under the influence at the moment. For some odd reason, when I don't validate her behavior and stand strong on my boundaries, she may scream and bite back, but in the end she crawls back... . I'm probably the only man that's done this to her, and still she tries to finagle her way back in, when normally the wimps she walks all over and never talks to again.
I'm sure she misses me... . well misses the easy life she had with me. And is probably looking for me to rescue her from the courts again for the umpteenth time. But she said when she walked out there are men that would treat her 100x better than I, and she could do everything on her own, so I'm just going to sit back and watch her fail.
By the way, I may sound heartless in all that I am saying, but I am really not. I have a huge heart and I do have a lot of love for her. It's just I'm a tough love kind of guy, and not one to enable bad behavior.
