She is coming home from the Hospital today... oh boy

[Black Pearl]

The wife comes home today, still have at least two weeks of out patient work.

It will be interesting to see what has changed if anything. (Must think positive)

The Psychiatrist has backed off of the BPD diagnosis and blames it on the mixture of Medicines and Jack Daniels.

I am not so sure, I will continue to visit, learn, read and post here there are too many things that are spot on for me to say the guy is correct and it was a bad day.

Still as bad as her life was and is the only person that has done anything wrong is me. Goes against all logic but I am the only person that is not in a position of responsibility and labeled as supervisor, those folks, can do no wrong and the pain must be caused by someone.  Denial is more than a river in Egypt. Hopefully some progress has been made.

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[lizzie458]

BPD is difficult to diagnose, and many professionals miss it - some even misdiagnose it on purpose.  I'm glad you're going to stick around.  If you think BPD fits, this place will help you and the communication tools and workshops are good regardless.  Diagnosis hasn't meant much in my r/s and I think you'll find many people here that say the same thing.  By the nature of the disease, our loved ones are unable to face the diagnosis anyway, so that can even make things worse. 

What will make a difference is what you do, and how you choose to move forward. 

[Cloudy Days]

Did the doctor talk to you when treating her?

The only reason my husband was diagnosed with BPD was because I personally talked to the doctor and told him how he acted with me (my husband wasn't in the room either). I didn't even know what BPD was at the time. The reason he was hospitalized was because of a Manic episode. They were only going to diagnose him as Bipolar until they talked to me. The only way I ever got my husband to even think of BPD as a diagnosis was to show him the symptoms not the label. It was a website for DBT therapy and didn't mention anything about BPD. It just said, do you have at least 5 of these 9 thinking patterns, my husband said yes to all 9.

[united for now]

I doubt you will see any  changes after such a short  stay. There may be some honey mooning -or blame - and a lot of her feeling sorry for herself.

Do you have a game  plan?

Have you read the lessons yet?

[Black Pearl]

I doubt you will see any  changes after such a short  stay. There may be some honey mooning -or blame - and a lot of her feeling sorry for herself.

Do you have a game  plan?

Have you read the lessons yet?

Yes I did read the lessons and when she got into the car she presented a problem that I answered with a practiced SET response and it was received well.

The program that she is in uses DBT and she says that she will follow the out patient program to the end, we will see.  Hopefully no one upsets her... .  what are the odds.

Friday night a friend she met at the program called from a local emergency room, she had also just gotten released, and had an anaphylactic (sp) reaction to something that she ate and was taken by ambulance from the Hotel where she was to a hospital.  The friend is from out of state and only had my wife's number for a ride back to her car.  We wound up with a weekend guest, it worked well, the friend provided a good buffer and a sounding board that I did not care if I upset. (which I didn't upset)

After reading the lessons and information presented here, I do believe, that she is not BPD but shares a few of the symptoms.

All in all it was a relaxing and comfortable weekend. 

[united for now]

Great 

Whether  she has traits or is full blown the skills learned here will improve your relationship in positive ways. So keep posting and sharing... . in good times and bad.