I'm done with borderland

[jonnyz]

 I have see the light.  Really it was easy. even though my Ex has BPD. She has not done anything  like lot of non BPD ex said there BPD's have done. Like stalking or making contact.  Although my ex-BPD  did contact me in Jan with nasty little phone message and again in feb with face book message all about me unfriending her 18 year old daughter.  I let the daughter decide if she wanted to stay friends and she said yes. so ignored Ex-BPD.     EX-BPD has never swore at me or called me names or even said anything bad about me.  she did tried to get daughter to think there was something wrong with me. daughter is smart  and told me my ex-BPD has no specific things to back this up.    Me and my ex-BPD girl friend have had very little contact over the 7 months since she broke -up with me.   she has not really tried anything or done really anything like I hear a lot of ex-BPD have done to there non-BPD ex's.  

I have accepted that I will never know why she just up ended our relationship.  I know I did nothing wrong and was very good to her     I do have really good friend out of this mess her daughter.     Anyway she is gone and never coming back.    I guess I was lucky compare to a lot of non-BPD ex's on this site.     I have no worries about it now.  I'm out of Borderland   Anyone know how to close my account here.   I really no longer need to be on here.  She is gone and not coming back. So I really do not need to worry about it or try to figure it out.   Thanks everyone here.  

[nolisan]

Good for you! Congrats. Don't forget the "family" is here if you need it.

[Clearmind]

jonnyz, how will ensure you don't choose a BPD #2? How will you choose a healthy partner from now on?

Your post is great and I'm pleased you have moved on from your ex - however where are you in it // your role in the relationship dynamic?

Our healing path is ongoing - to the stage where its not just about "them" being gone and forgotten its processing why we got into the relationship to begin with.

Have you considered exploring this on the Personal Inventory Board?

[jonnyz]

jonnyz, how will ensure you don't choose a BPD #2? How will you choose a healthy partner from now on?

Your post is great and I'm pleased you have moved on from your ex - however where are you in it // your role in the relationship dynamic?

Our healing path is ongoing - to the stage where its not just about "them" being gone and forgotten its processing why we got into the relationship to begin with.

Have you considered exploring this on the Personal Inventory Board?

I got into the relationship with  her because  I she was my first serious girlfriend in HIgh school . I did not kno wshe went crazy over the last 25 years.  I had always loved her.  She is crazy now and not my problem. She has a new man name Ted. So she is Ted's problem now.  I'm much better and she is go forever .  I thank everyone for this site. I no longer need it.  I wish you all the best.  Thanks