Keeping us there

[Ripples]

Im now in a very lovely relationship and have recently had a beautiful baby girl.

Out of the blue comes a fb friends request 7 years after I left her madness.

Go figure! 

[Reg]

Hi Ripples,

I do get the idea, that she knows about your current situation !

Reg

[Ripples]

Hi Reg,

For sure she does. Being the cynic that I am I doubt its about wanting to share my happiness. More like how can I possibly be happy without her! What is she missing etc.

[Reg]

I think you hit the nail spot on ! 

Nothing cynical about it.

She sees that you are actually happy now, that you've moved on and that things are going pretty good for you.

That probably gives her doubts, some kind of BPD jealousy, remembering her of what she had with you, and you might be in for a new attempt of a recycle.  You have become white.

I'd say keep her away as far as you can !

[Ripples]

Im glad you agree Reg. I should say that she is living with someone and has two kids with him after a 6 year relationship. For sure there will be a "how could he possibly be happy... ." thing going on plus I think she will be theoretically putting herself into the position of my lovely partner... .what do you call that? Anyway... .the result im sure is "what have I thrown away!". Hope that makes sense.

Anyway, for me although the approach is veiled in friendship, I sense that is more motivated by jealousy and a desire to see what she threw away. Its like she wants to compare her life to mine. After so long, its nice to get another piece of the puzzle. Confirmation is such a good medicine for doubt!