Why haven't I been recycled?

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

Snap --

To echo Ironman's comments -- "Why haven't I been recycled?"

Because you've been lucky.

Good answer

[bruceli]

Snap --

To echo Ironman's comments -- "Why haven't I been recycled?"

Because you've been lucky.

Good answer

[gettingoverit]

I was recycled four different times over a period of 6.5 years. Each time was worse and more toxic. The only reason why she left me for good the 5th time was because she had my replacement lined up and did not "need" me anymore. That ended the dysfunctional dance. I have not heard a peep from her since (with the exception of a visit around Xmas time with her "fiance" to return tree ornaments... .but I digress). At first I was devastated and hurt by the betrayal of her and my friend. Looking back two plus years now (wow I can't believe it's been this long already) her leaving was the best thing that ever happened to me. Don't get me wrong it hurt like hell and I fully understand the pain you are going through, but I know for me personally that woman would have literally killed me from all the stress and walking on eggshells all the time, never knowing when the next shoe would drop. It sucked the life out of me. You don't want another recycle. The honeymoon gets shorter and shorter and the eventual pain that YOU will feel gets greater and greater.

Also, just because they do not recycle you does not mean they do not have BPD or major symptoms of the disorder. If someone treats you like garbage it's still reprehensible regardless if there is an illness attached to it or not. You were treated like ___. That's the bottom line. You deserve better than that.