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I married a woman with BPD and bipolar and now realize I never knew the true her. She's manipulative controlling and has become more violent. I had to leave about 4 months ago and since then we've had no contact. It may sound like a silly question. How do I go about getting my personal things without her blowing up possibly having me thrown in jail? I had to leave with only the clothes on my back. I only want clothes and some tools. The rest I'll go thru a lawyer for. I have a feeling she'll start a fight and who knows how she could manipulate this situation. Any ideas? Thanks.
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You could take friends with you if you have close ones you can explain the situation to, then schedule a time and a time limit, go over there together, with the secondary benefit they can help you carry stuff.
Alternatively, call the cops. If you are still married you have a legal right to enter the place, and cops could hang around while you get your stuff. Good luck to you!
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I know it seems so obvious as to how I could do this. I just never know who I'm dealing with. I'll go to the cops and explain the situation in case I have to call. Thanks for your reply.
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tnbh
Yes, get the cops informed is a good plan. And I would also look for some friends to be with you.
Keep us posted how it goes.
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