Nightmares?

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Lately, I've been having nightmares about her showing up at my place and trying to cut me.

It's irrational, but she used to talk so much about taking my foot off with her medical equipment when I was asleep.  Sometimes I have nightmares about her showing up and looking at me in a way that she often did during our relationship (I used to call it her 'Ring' girl look) and trying to break in and stab me.  I don't really have a rational reason for this, but I keep having nightmares about it.

I'm also jumpy at work.  She described the specifics of how I would be followed and what I would notice before her family's "Russian mafia" friends would abduct me.

I keep expecting to see her outside of my office or worse, coming to my office.  I don't think she would rationally, but I keep getting shocked by her behavior.

My parents actually sat me down last week (they live in the area) and said they think she has become dangerous and are concerned for my safety and their own.  My friends are calling me regularly to make sure I haven't disappeared.

My family and friends are also angry with me that I stayed with someone who regularly threatened to mutilate me, have me killed or abducted.

I know it's true that is not good.  I went to crisis counseling after our breakup to express these anxieties as well as her claims about my alleged abuse.  It's clear that I need to understand why I allowed this continue... .


Have other people had nightmares about their exes?  I'm usually pretty low key about this kind of thing.  I'm honestly embarrassed that I feel this way because I'm a grown man.  I shouldn't be afraid of these things.  There is just something I feel intuitively about her that is making me uneasy.  :)on't know where that intuition was 10 months ago... .

[nowforsomethingdifferent]

Lately, I've been having nightmares about her showing up at my place and trying to cut me.

It's irrational, but she used to talk so much about taking my foot off with her medical equipment when I was asleep.  Sometimes I have nightmares about her showing up and looking at me in a way that she often did during our relationship (I used to call it her 'Ring' girl look) and trying to break in and stab me.  I don't really have a rational reason for this, but I keep having nightmares about it.

I'm also jumpy at work.  She described the specifics of how I would be followed and what I would notice before her family's "Russian mafia" friends would abduct me.

I keep expecting to see her outside of my office or worse, coming to my office.  I don't think she would rationally, but I keep getting shocked by her behavior.

My parents actually sat me down last week (they live in the area) and said they think she has become dangerous and are concerned for my safety and their own.  My friends are calling me regularly to make sure I haven't disappeared.

My family and friends are also angry with me that I stayed with someone who regularly threatened to mutilate me, have me killed or abducted.

I know it's true that is not good.  I went to crisis counseling after our breakup to express these anxieties as well as her claims about my alleged abuse.  It's clear that I need to understand why I allowed this continue... .


Have other people had nightmares about their exes?  I'm usually pretty low key about this kind of thing.  I'm honestly embarrassed that I feel this way because I'm a grown man.  I shouldn't be afraid of these things.  There is just something I feel intuitively about her that is making me uneasy.  :)on't know where that intuition was 10 months ago... .

[Checkmate]

Lately, I've been having nightmares about her showing up at my place and trying to cut me.

It's irrational, but she used to talk so much about taking my foot off with her medical equipment when I was asleep.  Sometimes I have nightmares about her showing up and looking at me in a way that she often did during our relationship (I used to call it her 'Ring' girl look) and trying to break in and stab me.  I don't really have a rational reason for this, but I keep having nightmares about it.

I'm also jumpy at work.  She described the specifics of how I would be followed and what I would notice before her family's "Russian mafia" friends would abduct me.

I keep expecting to see her outside of my office or worse, coming to my office.  I don't think she would rationally, but I keep getting shocked by her behavior.

My parents actually sat me down last week (they live in the area) and said they think she has become dangerous and are concerned for my safety and their own.  My friends are calling me regularly to make sure I haven't disappeared.

My family and friends are also angry with me that I stayed with someone who regularly threatened to mutilate me, have me killed or abducted.

I know it's true that is not good.  I went to crisis counseling after our breakup to express these anxieties as well as her claims about my alleged abuse.  It's clear that I need to understand why I allowed this continue... .


Have other people had nightmares about their exes?  I'm usually pretty low key about this kind of thing.  I'm honestly embarrassed that I feel this way because I'm a grown man.  I shouldn't be afraid of these things.  There is just something I feel intuitively about her that is making me uneasy.  :)on't know where that intuition was 10 months ago... .

yes, I have had nightmares ... .a re-occurring dream is that my ex is michael myers from the halloween movies and he's chasing me ... .not a good dream at all ... .

Also, do to circumstances in our r/s I also developed some PSTD symptoms which persisted for about 3 months ... .Most have gone away except for a few ... .So it does get better ... .

I actually formally forgave my ex for his actions, it didn't heal the hurt and didn't make the hurt go away, but it did release the anger and removed a huge weight from my shoulders ... .it was shortly after doing that that the dreams stopped being so frequent and now only occur once a week, that I remember ... .

Forgiveness is truly more about us and our own health and survival and happiness than it is about them ... .

[radioheart]

I have been having nightmares lately as well, too.

Last night I woke up terrified. I had had a dream where he yelled "I QUIT!" in the most despaired and enraged voice I'd ever heard, and I braced myself for a gunshot, because I knew he was holding a gun and getting ready to shoot himself. I woke up shaking and waiting for the sound of the gun. I was sure I had actually heard him in the house, screaming and holding a gun. Then finally I realized it had been a dream. There were some more terrifying parts to the dream that I didn't remember when I woke up for good this morning.

He is still my husband. We talked last night about divorcing and he did his best to talk me into letting him come back and give this another go. He is so persuasive that I got off the phone thinking maybe it wouldn't be so bad to give it another chance, and feeling guilty for the pain I am causing him by suggesting divorce.

But I think that dream was God's way of bringing me back to reality and literally scaring some sense into me.

[zordon11]

I have nightmares too it is pretty odd because before knowing her i was not even able to remember my dreams. But now almost every night I dream about something odd. For last couple of nights I have dreamed about my dead grandmother and dead uncle. i had this feeling they wanted to tell me something but instead they were just there looking at me.