Please move out

[Depression = 72% of members]

I need advice. I told my BPDh that I was not happy. He refused to go to counseling, or to even ask why I'm unhappy, so we've decided to separate and divorce ( I'm the driving force).  We decided this 2 months ago, and so living with him during this time has been horrible - though I will say these 2 months have proven to me I've made the right decision as he has been so mean. I've told my family and friends and I'm trying to move forward with my life. Honestly, 9 years of his crap was enough and I'm ready to be happy. I'm over being sad and wondering why we always fought, and why I never did anything right. All I want to do is put this behind me (well as best as I can considering we have a young child) and move on. He has not told his family, or many friends. He is the one that decided to move bc he wants to keep our daughter in her house, but nothing is happening there... . How do I get him out? I can't take his verbal abuse and general nastiness for much longer  I don't want to make things worse, but I can't handle any more of this!

[ednapontellier]

I need advice. I told my BPDh that I was not happy. He refused to go to counseling, or to even ask why I'm unhappy, so we've decided to separate and divorce ( I'm the driving force).  We decided this 2 months ago, and so living with him during this time has been horrible - though I will say these 2 months have proven to me I've made the right decision as he has been so mean. I've told my family and friends and I'm trying to move forward with my life. Honestly, 9 years of his crap was enough and I'm ready to be happy. I'm over being sad and wondering why we always fought, and why I never did anything right. All I want to do is put this behind me (well as best as I can considering we have a young child) and move on. He has not told his family, or many friends. He is the one that decided to move bc he wants to keep our daughter in her house, but nothing is happening there... . How do I get him out? I can't take his verbal abuse and general nastiness for much longer  I don't want to make things worse, but I can't handle any more of this!

[Perfidy]

Hi E.P... . Sorry that you are having this trouble, I can totally relate to that scenario. I was in a very similar situation. No matter what I told her she wouldn't leave. I must have told her to get out over a thousand times. Seriously... . I had a girlfriend get pi$$ed off at me one time and tell me to get out. All I had to hear that was one time. I got out, and I stayed out. I'm good like that. The BPDexgf... . omfg... . never saw anything like it in my life. She was a parasite. She would not leave until... . she had taken as much as she possibly could from me and no longer had any use for me. That's what you're dealing with.