Home page of BPDFamily.com, online relationship supportMember registration here
July 01, 2025, 01:48:36 PM *
Welcome, Guest. Please login or register.

Login with username, password and session length
Board Admins: Kells76, Once Removed, Turkish
Senior Ambassadors: SinisterComplex
  Help!   Boards   Please Donate Login to Post New?--Click here to register  
bing
Books members most read
105
The High
Conflict Couple
Loving Someone with
Borderline Personality Disorder
Loving the
Self-Absorbed
Borderline Personality
Disorder Demystified

Pages: [1]   Go Down
  Print  
Author Topic: A Year go today... The last time I saw her as my girlfriend.  (Read 540 times)
snappafcw
****
Offline Offline

What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Posts: 295


« on: January 06, 2014, 10:56:34 PM »

Hi guys I hope your new year is off to a great start.

Well it was a year ago today that my uBPDexgf brought over a list of propertys we were planning on moving out together. We also had sex and everything seemed normal and fine. This would be the last time i ever saw her as my girlfriend. After her visit the horrible silent treatments began out of nowhere and when I called her out on it I got belittled and eventually dumped via text a couple of weeks later. It still hurts a bit that I got betrayed by someone I have so much love to but I guess that's normal. If anything after a year I can at least see now someone who loved me would never treat me like that in a million years so all my ex's words were empty. I still feel lonely at times but at least now I can handle it and it doesn't eat me up inside. My ex also pops into my head quite often still but now that I have dealt with the pain I can at least switch her off and think about something else. Finally I sometimes still question how she could treat me the way she did and I also accept I most likely will never know (apart from the fact she is mentally ill).

I have come a long way in a year... . 6 months even. Have faith you will see things how they really are and take your power back Smiling (click to insert in post)
Logged
Perfidy
********
Offline Offline

Gender: Male
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Relationship status: Divorced/18 years Single/5 months that I know of.
Posts: 1594



« Reply #1 on: January 06, 2014, 11:55:12 PM »

It'll be a year in march for me. March 21 of all days. Encouraging to read this. Thank you for posting it. I don't really like to talk about her and how she left anymore but I would like to stop burying it. I won't speak to her and I have no reason to. I will not accept her attempts to contact me. She just simply walked out and didn't come back. Left everything. Clothes, personal effects, everything. Poetically enough, there was a fire. Destroyed everything. Nothing left but ashes. (Shut up,I didn't start it). The fire started at another house and spread to mine. I wasn't even home. I swear! Ashes... I get to rebuild from absolutely scratch. So it was like living with a ghost there having all of her stuff around me. Dude... . Sorry you got me started... . One year! Congratulations on how far you've come!
Logged
snappafcw
****
Offline Offline

What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Posts: 295


« Reply #2 on: January 07, 2014, 12:32:36 AM »

I'm glad you have come a long way yourself Perfidy. I still have some of her things she never bothered trying to collect. Just silly little things like perfume, eyedrops and a couple of rings etc... . I guess I will throw them out when I am ready but they are packed away where I can't see them.
Logged
love4meNOTu
*****
Offline Offline

Gender: Female
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Posts: 529


« Reply #3 on: January 07, 2014, 05:48:12 AM »

Yes, I threw out my wedding dress, all pictures and every single memento.

I have nothing in my home to remind me of him. It did help. That and the fact that he is mentally ill, abused me in front of my children and took advantage of me financially.

Not much there I'd like to have back. Miss the sex though.

L
Logged

In the depth of winter I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer.
~Albert Camus
Can You Help Us Stay on the Air in 2024?

Pages: [1]   Go Up
  Print  
 
Jump to:  

Our 2023 Financial Sponsors
We are all appreciative of the members who provide the funding to keep BPDFamily on the air.
12years
alterK
AskingWhy
At Bay
Cat Familiar
CoherentMoose
drained1996
EZEarache
Flora and Fauna
ForeverDad
Gemsforeyes
Goldcrest
Harri
healthfreedom4s
hope2727
khibomsis
Lemon Squeezy
Memorial Donation (4)
Methos
Methuen
Mommydoc
Mutt
P.F.Change
Penumbra66
Red22
Rev
SamwizeGamgee
Skip
Swimmy55
Tartan Pants
Turkish
whirlpoollife



Powered by MySQL Powered by PHP Powered by SMF 1.1.21 | SMF © 2006-2020, Simple Machines Valid XHTML 1.0! Valid CSS!