2 years NC - but thoughts of future possible events

[spark2]

I was fortunate in the detachment from my BPD.

I had somehow connected with a previous source of hers - the guy and I became great friends and really helped each other to heal. Now me and that friend (who do not live close to each other) seem to be doing very well post the EXBPD.

Occasionally we will hear some story about some wacky thing the exBPD did and get together to compare notes and reflect on how we are so glad to be out of the picture.

We do have concerns of being contacted in the future by her and have a pact to immediately contact each other to make sure we discuss it and do not at all respond to the EXBPD. We realize its very dangerous and are there to support one another with complete understanding. (someone who hasn't been with a BPD might not get how important it is to ignore a re-engagement attempt so we prefer to keep it between the guys who dated her and REALLY understand)

Just the other day we were wondering if some day we will sadly see a crazy news story about her unfortunate end. We believe because of the violence we experienced from the EXBPD that she will eventually kill someone, or be killed by a vengeful source she screwed over - or it will end in some weird murder suicide)

We have many reasons to see this type of end as inevitable for her sadly.

We then wondered if one day we would be appearing on one of those crime shows reflecting on the early years with EXBPD before she got older, more crazy and went over the line of violent rage. Or maybe we could write a book, or make a movie about it.

This girl is a really out there case so we believe however it ends with her - it will make national media.

We then thought that if we could make a film or a book about her and sell it - the money made would be fair and recover our losses from the time we spent with the BPD.

- Do you have a BPD survivor support group in real life or have you somehow managed to connect with a survivor of your very own exBPD?

- Is it bad for us to be ready to come out and tell the world our story (which is holywood movie worthy) when she finally goes over the line and it makes national news?

Happy 2014 everyone!

[fromheeltoheal]

It would seem to me that if you're still commiserating with one of her exes and considering opportunities to get your money back that you haven't detached yet?  Just my hallucination, apply as needed.

[Rubies]

The one who I walked through post BPD trauma with is DD19 who went NC when she turned 18.  It was an incredible journey of growth and healing for both of us.  We have future events that give us worry, we will  have to make our choices around other people's choices.  Other DD will be having a wedding.   BPDxh's family STILL makes nasty attacks on us more than 3 years after I locked the door when they slammed it.

I've been seeing a gentleman for the last 6 weeks who knew BPDxh, and it took a few minutes for him to recover when I told him.  He wasn't surprised later when I disclosed flying monkeys popping out at me.   He confessed to having his own.  He didn't want to tell me who she was because he was embarrassed, but I felt I needed to know.  If I have snakes thrown on me, I want to know whose snakes they are.  I am quite familiar with her wackiness.   We are smart enough to know we're in deep trouble if our BPDx's join forces.

[spark2]

It would seem to me that if you're still commiserating with one of her exes and considering opportunities to get your money back that you haven't detached yet?  Just my hallucination, apply as needed.

Well we don't see her and are both far far away from her at this point. (Which makes us feel very relieved)

It's not really an OP, and not really a hope - but if one day she turns into a Hollywood movie worthy crime case - we will be able to add the missing chapters. If it's profitable we decided "that's fair"