questioning my beliefs

[AllisG]

I feel like I'm questioning my beliefs, doubting myself.

When he accuses me of something I start to wonder, "maybe what I did or said is wrong?"  Even if I know with all my being I did nothing wrong I still get this nagging in my head that maybe he's right.

Or if I feel he's crossed boundaries (for example he has major boundary issues with Facebook, but that's another topic)

I feel like oh maybe it's not a big deal.

Idk if that makes sense. 

[Surnia]

Makes perfect sense to me.

As long I was in my rs with my now exh, I went through similar things. Weak boundaries, not too much clarity about my values, downplaying it, too fast doubting myself. I realized that I have this not only with my h, I have similar situations with co-workers for example.

Another thought is: Is it really about right or wrong or is it more about "being different" or have different perceptions or opinions? Perhaps you can tell one of your real life examples?