Anniversary

[aboutabrownie]

My BPD/NPD grandmother (one of my primary caregivers) died last year on my husband's birthday (2 days after mine).  Ironic since they have a knack for effing up holidays somehow.  I had the twisted thought that it was her last way of digging in the knife.  The anniversary of her death, and his birthday are coming up and I find myself triggering more as it approaches.  I have gone back into therapy (I am a therapist myself, but find I need to return from time to time) and am just trying to breathe as it approaches.  I feel like once the anniversary is over, a milestone will have past.  There has been so much healing since she died already.  Anyway, just needed to "vocalize."  Thanks for listening.   

[theXfactor]

I can certainly relate. They sure know how to give gifts that keep on giving. Sounds like you're very aware of what triggers you, so at least you're on top of it. That's half the battle won already. It would benefit us all to learn from your example by keeping vigilant of dates, times, places and situations that could cause triggers. It'll make it that much easier to dig out from under. Thank you for sharing and I wish you well!

[StarStruck]

Hi aboutabrownie - 'it will always be celebrated as the birthday it always was'. Reason why... . he got there first