l tried SET for the first time today

[tristesse]

I'm happy to announce that I have been reading all of the information on this site , and watching the short films. Today I decided to try a new technique, SET, support, empathy, test... . it was amazing, my dd compromised with no argument. I was able to stop what I was doing and focus fully on her, then I told her, I get it, I understood her desire(support ) I was able to clarify why I understood it, (empathy)and finally I was able to tell her that the answer was no and why it was no,( truth )she found a compromise that worked for everyone.  Hooray for our 1 st baby step.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Rapt Reader]

Wow! 

Doesn't it feel good when we tippy-toe into the S.E.T. water and carefully find that it really isn't bad? 

The more you do it, the easier it gets, and the better your relationship will get.

Amazing, no?

Congratulations, bpetersen514!

[tristesse]

Thank You Rapt Reader.

I am still floating on clod nine this morning. I feel like I won the lottery.

[js friend]

Im so happy for you bpeterson514,

Good communication is so important with our dds/ds. It seems to unlock a key to a door that allow us to do it get through to them without all the upset of previous attempts.It definitley takes practice but is so worth it.Just look how much things have improved after your very first attempt!

Looking back i sometimes shudder to think of how invalidating I  must have come across to my dd sometimes

Using SET has helped me not only with my dd but with other people too

[jellibeans]

woo hoo... . great news!