You want to be loved and held which is completely normal. In your case probably the healthiest thing to do though is build a relationship and then get in bed later, right?
I agree with AO in a sense if a relationship with this woman is what you're hoping to develop, but I sense from how you describe things it may be too soon for that. Sounds reboundy to me.
If you're ok just being friends with her you could just ask for what you want, but be aware of why you're connecting with this woman. I had the same urges to just be close to someone and i realized that was probably what I was looking for rather than the sexual connection. Following that I gained a lot of strength from facing the realization that I had become addicted to curling up with my ex every night and having her with me and I really didn't think it was living in integrity to seek that closeness based on that empty feeling. I was too aware that I was running from the feeling of being truly alone. Part of what kept me in my r/s for longer than i should have stayed.
I made a decision to own my solitude. Spreading out in my bed at night, and realizing that I wasn't incomplete at all without someone there with me. (this happened in stages) Rather that I was at the beginning of a journey that would lead to me sharing my bed with a woman (or women depending on how I decide to approach dating) that would be excited to be there with me and that I'd be as excited to have there. It doesn't have to look like anything that has come before either so if you dig the cuddles there's nothing wrong with that as long as your cuddle partner is all about it without the expectations of more than you can give. Those kind of conversations are what I'm looking forward to as well. Expressing my wants and desires to someone, and being ready to hear what they want too.
There's plenty of time to figure it all out. I've succumbed a few times to just spending the night with this girl holding each other and may again. Connection can be hard to quit cold turkey. Enjoy the journey and be as gentle with yourself as you wish someone else would be with you. This is a lifestyle/values shift/addiction recovery thing. It's not always neat and tidy.
