Beginning DBT

[IsItHerOrIsItMe]

My uBPDw and I are starting to work through the "High Conflict Couple".

So first exercises is to describe what has happened without judgement.  So she's tried it a couple times, then repeats her description... . I tell her I understand and she expresses that she doesn't see the value.  I'm still not agreeing with her and she still feels "uncomfortable" about the situation.

Before I thought I told her, the book isn't a how-to guide to get people to do what you want... . it's about how to discuss things without us getting angry at each other, which we just did... .

I'm not sure if she's going to continue... . anyone else work through the book and can offer some advice?

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[MissyM]

Well, we are doing the High Conflict Couple with a therapist.  I don't think I would be able to get my dBPDh to do this on our own because he would feel like I was trying to control him.  I think it is a fabulous book and is really helping.