Hello, ynguns2... .Thanks for the additional information; I'm really sorry for all the stress this is putting you through. I'm glad you have a Therapist; is he counseling you to detach from this woman? Is that what you are trying to do? I do realize that the addition of your first child does make this process very difficult, and I can imagine the angst you are going through wanting to have a relationship with your baby daughter.
Since this is the Staying Board, our focus here is to preserve a relationship, keeping it intact and loving and working... .The Lessons I mentioned before (the
links to the right-hand side of this page) would still be very beneficial to you in figuring out how to at least preserve the relationship enough to work out an arrangement for you to see your new baby. And the
Co-parenting after the Split Board would be helpful in navigating the co-parenting waters, also. Maybe you should check out that Board, and all of its educational information, and post your dilemma there, too. What do you think?
I'm really sorry you are having to deal with all of this, yngguns2, but you are in Therapy and on this site, and that really is a good start to figuring this all out... .I wish you well on this new chapter in your life; being a parent is very rewarding