Suicide insinuation?

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

Hi Family,

Here is the situation. I have been NC for 5 weeks. I have blocked her from everything slowly over time as she was slowly breaking NC over all available mediums incl. phone, whatsapp, viber and defriended her from facebook (but didn't block her).

We were supposed to go on holidays together last and this week. I didn't go she ended up going by herself. She thinks that I actually went there also by myself and she is texting me, calling every other day from unknown numbers that I don't pick up etc. I have been doing extremely well and have not broken NC.

I just received this facebook message below. Is she kind of insinuating suicide? I don't know if she is serious about this - she had minor suicide ideation but never attempted anything, at least she never told me anything about it. I have to admit - if this is a joke, it is quite funny. My next step is to block her from fb too but perhaps after she 's back tomorrow. I don't want to push it more than I have to at this stage. Thoughts?

"Hi Freedom33, I'm at 'Hotel X' this evening from 11pm. You are welcome to come by & say hello. Or tmrw morning. I'll be on the rooftop in the morning. I might jump. Just kidding. I leave the hotel 12 noon tmrw... .I really genuinely hope you are well and sending you many kisses. To me, you will always be my baby, like you were since our first date in location X on XY Month 2013... .Xxx"

[freedom33]

Hi Family,

Here is the situation. I have been NC for 5 weeks. I have blocked her from everything slowly over time as she was slowly breaking NC over all available mediums incl. phone, whatsapp, viber and defriended her from facebook (but didn't block her).

We were supposed to go on holidays together last and this week. I didn't go she ended up going by herself. She thinks that I actually went there also by myself and she is texting me, calling every other day from unknown numbers that I don't pick up etc. I have been doing extremely well and have not broken NC.

I just received this facebook message below. Is she kind of insinuating suicide? I don't know if she is serious about this - she had minor suicide ideation but never attempted anything, at least she never told me anything about it. I have to admit - if this is a joke, it is quite funny. My next step is to block her from fb too but perhaps after she 's back tomorrow. I don't want to push it more than I have to at this stage. Thoughts?

"Hi Freedom33, I'm at 'Hotel X' this evening from 11pm. You are welcome to come by & say hello. Or tmrw morning. I'll be on the rooftop in the morning. I might jump. Just kidding. I leave the hotel 12 noon tmrw... .I really genuinely hope you are well and sending you many kisses. To me, you will always be my baby, like you were since our first date in location X on XY Month 2013... .Xxx"

[OutOfEgypt]

Hard to really know if she's insinuating suicide, but I seriously doubt it.  But I can tell you what she did intend... .she was hoping that saying that would hook you in, grab your attention, and get you ruminating and thinking about her.  And it worked.

I mean holy crap... .look at how loaded that message is... .a promise of a rendezvous, probably sex, then a coy and playful hint at being helpless and needing your rescue designed to make you both wonder and worry, then a few terms of endearment and language designed to cast you as her possession, "her baby."

For your own good, delete it and forget it.  She does not need you to save her.  It is a trap.  Block her on FB.

[tim_tom]

imo... not serious, just a manipulation...

fwiw... I'd love to get a message like that, atleast I know she had some warm feelings towards me... I get "hey, how are you" or something similarly cold and unpersonal

[Mr Hollande]

Put all your gadgets of communication aside, go to the wash hand basin and turn on the tap. Let the water run until it has a pleasant temperature. Wash your hands thoroughly as you repeat the following mantra: "What you do is none of my concern, whatever you choose to do on your head be it... ."

[freedom33]

Hard to really know if she's insinuating suicide, but I seriously doubt it.  But I can tell you what she did intend... .she was hoping that saying that would hook you in, grab your attention, and get you ruminating and thinking about her.  And it worked.

It did really work. I went to her fb profile and blocked her but in doing so I have been seriously triggered by looking at her recently updated profile photo from her holiday and possibly the new supply liking it... .


PS - tim_tom you really don't want such messages man. I 'd much prefer your cold ones anytime of the day.  Mine doesn't have warmer feeling than yours. It's just that she is a great manipulator and having no shame talking to me like this after all I have been through with her. She has no remorse. Who the fck does she think she? She takes me for a piece of sht, a tool, an object that she does not have to apologise to for all her past actions - Now suddenly she comes back and send messages like this as if nothing happened? Her audacity is beyond words... .

[OutOfEgypt]

I'm sure.  But it will subside.  Give it a day or so, and you will feel much better

[Mutt]

Err on the side of caution freedom33.

Here's some important information on suicide threats and attempts:

TOOLS: Dealing with threats of Suicide and Suicide Attempts

[freedom33]

Mutt - most of these suggested actions involve breaking contact in some form of way. I am not intending to do that. She can do what she wants. I am not getting involved in this.

[tim_tom]

PS - tim_tom you really don't want such messages man. I 'd much prefer your cold ones anytime of the day.  Mine doesn't have warmer feeling than yours. It's just that she is a great manipulator and having no shame talking to me like this after all I have been through with her. She has no remorse. Who the fck does she think she? She takes me for a piece of sht, a tool, an object that she does not have to apologise to for all her past actions - Now suddenly she comes back and send messages like this as if nothing happened? Her audacity is beyond words... .

I dunno. I just really need the validation.

i've come to the realization that i had low self esteem and thus was an easy mark, the BPD came into my life and raised it through the roof, now that she has dropped me like dirt I've sunken lower then ever before. I know it's part of her pattern, but man I just want it to be real in some way, and the only think that would show me that is some kind of warmth