I hate her, but love her and I dont know why.
21 days is no time at all Deeno, and the answers to that question will become clear as you detach and heal. And whether you are 'safe' or not is entirely up to you. The best thing you can do right now is take very good care of yourself: eat right, get some exercise, sleep enough, avoid booze and caffeine, keep reading and posting here, and if you need to talk to a professional, do that. You may just be entering a period of profound growth, although it may not feel like it right now. Take care of you!