She Showed up

[NYMike]

It has been about 4 weeks since I seen my BPDGF when she abruptly left me when I was at work.She called me on Wednesday crying and carrying on(manipulation).She said she needed some of her clothing from my beautiful home and some things.

I agreed and it was hell for me.I met her at my place and this was not the woman I met and fell in love with.Something was different.

She began to talk to me and it was 200% my fault and not once did she say she was sorry for anything.She believes in her mind,she does no wrong.She went on and on with this character assault of me and degrading me.I just could not believe what was coming out of her mouth.She even made up lies to state her case of how bad I am and then told me I needed to be in an Mental Institution,REALLY?

I kept my mouth shut and my heart broke listening to this crazy woman carry on with this bullcrap.

The funny thing is this.She left behind some amazing items that were her mothers.I asked her to take it all and she gave me some lame excuse and left again... .I texted her the following day and was as nice as pie.I asked if she would arrange to get the rest of this beautiful expensive stuff that is your mothers.

Her Reply... .''I will get the rest of my stuff with the Police.You destroyed my life and I hope you are happy now''

I am a very nice man and I refuse to toss it all away.So I gathered it all up and put it in my basement and put a tarp over it all.At least it is out of sight.

It seems like she wants to be ''connected'' to me in some way.?.I am not sure what this is all about.This whole thing is a mystery that drives me insane and has really hurt my life.I was doing so well and I invited the devil into my home... This is my 2nd go around with a BPD Woman.I must be very dumb and stupid to relive this all over again.


One more thing.I want to actually stalk her or hire a private investigator to no What the heck REALITY IS HER... I am dazed and confused and lost with all of this sudden behavior... .

Any Thoughts.?

[slimmiller]

One more thing.I want to actually stalk her or hire a private investigator to no What the heck REALITY IS HER... I am dazed and confused and lost with all of this sudden behavior... .

Any Thoughts.?

NO. Do NOT do that. If you do she will be able to say (to authorities and who ever will listen) "see he IS ruining my life"

She wants to be connected someway to you because even if you were to scream and yell at her, it would still show a 'connection'  Most BPDs would rather have that then completed abandonment.

Is it possible for you to take her things to her family or a neutral place for her to get? I would not want to ever be alone with her in your home even if there is no conflict i.e her happy. She is disregulated and its hard telling what she may accuse you of

[NYMike]

Ok.Stalking is not a good idea... As far as this ''stuff''.She has no family here or friends.I do not no were she lives now.Or were she is staying.All I do no is were she works...

I was thinking of leaving there with a sign... Just not sure what to do so it is here and I don't think it is my responsibility to toss it... .

Just want this ''tie'' cut with her...

[LeftSidePain]

She is disregulated and its hard telling what she may accuse you of

I am going through this myself now and have seen "disregulation" or disassociation. After I left the her home from picking up my children she told our eldest she was going to call the police, because I moved something that was on the counter and I act like I own the place.

What is "disregulation"? I would like to read up on it and see if it coincides with what I think it means.