We are all so much better off

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Halo Family

Today, I counted my blessings. I really thought for long and I realised what a great family I have, amazing friends, freedom, beautiful home, posessions, job, etc. I couldn't help but also count the demise of my toxic relationship as a blessing. I am so glad I am out and that I am healing so well. It brought up two thoughts for us to discuss:

1. We are so much better off without them. Maybe you have heartache, but you have so much to work with. You've learned so much. The future is all yours! You can go about your daily business uninterrupted and with motivation. Your leach is gone.

2. I pity them. 99% of these blessings they will never have - Good relationships, families, friends etc. Even when they do they will never appreciate it. They are not better off and never will be. We do not have strings of bad relationships like them, we don't have constant chaos and conflict, raging, anger and screaming.

Have a good weekend people! I'm gonna party, spend time with family, work on my sideline business and rest. 4 things I could never do with my BPDex.

[Pieter2]

Halo Family

Today, I counted my blessings. I really thought for long and I realised what a great family I have, amazing friends, freedom, beautiful home, posessions, job, etc. I couldn't help but also count the demise of my toxic relationship as a blessing. I am so glad I am out and that I am healing so well. It brought up two thoughts for us to discuss:

1. We are so much better off without them. Maybe you have heartache, but you have so much to work with. You've learned so much. The future is all yours! You can go about your daily business uninterrupted and with motivation. Your leach is gone.

2. I pity them. 99% of these blessings they will never have - Good relationships, families, friends etc. Even when they do they will never appreciate it. They are not better off and never will be. We do not have strings of bad relationships like them, we don't have constant chaos and conflict, raging, anger and screaming.

Have a good weekend people! I'm gonna party, spend time with family, work on my sideline business and rest. 4 things I could never do with my BPDex.

[guy4caligirl]

I agree wholeheartedly party on Dude !

  Every end has a new beginning !

[Recooperating]

Amen to that!

Tonight Im having a tradional family diner with my loving family, without looking at the clock to be home on time for a skype call, without having to make pictures to prove Im really with my family... .Just a nice peacefull quiet loving diner... .

Tomorow I am going to an amusement park with one of my best friends. This time without being accused of being a lesbian, having an orgy and affair! Without looking at the clock, checking my phone every 20 sec.

We are free! We are free to be who we are, do what we want, love our friends and family without being accused for it! All yhe opportunities to make a good life for ourselfs! We will concurr, we will heal!

Have a wonderfull, peacefull, dramaless, joyfull and happy weekend everyone! 

[merlin4926]

Great to have some positivity! I agree we are so much better off without them and let's face it they aren't going to be having a happy life with good relationships, sad for them but thankfully no longer sad for us . I've got weekend filled with friends to look forward to - some of same mates that have been there for me in there dark times because they love and care for me unlike my exBPD!

[Raybo48]

I'm getting to the point to where I pity my BPDxgf, but I don't feel sorry for her.  It's a very hard life they lead and the reality is it wasn't by their own choosing that they got this way.  They didn't choose to be abandoned by one or both parents to become who they are now and  the way they function is the only way they know how to survive. To unlearn all of that dysfunction is a monumental task and it almost never happens.  :)on't get me wrong here;  I still resent and I still have low self esteem and low self worth due to her constant projection of toxic shame, but I still can pity her.  Who would want to look in the mirror and see ugliness every day? Who would want to loath themselves on a daily basis? Who would want to be terrified of abandonment daily?  

I pity her for it.