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Ok guys, I felt effing awful last night, and after a strong coffee or 2 today, I feel great! To everyone suffering, analysing and missing their ex, remember:
We as healthy human beings always take risks in life, and we almost always take responsibility for our actions, we ALL knew these woman/men came with baggage, whether it's kids, childhood trauma, daddy issues and infidelity. We knew from the start that this relationship was going to be not only be different but excess baggage was going to be included. I've red a lot about your exes still being or just got out of a relationship before they got with us. Yes we ignored the red flags, and we are the ones who a responsible for our actions and emotions. We didn't care or have empathy for the poor guy before us who later found out that she did the same thing that she's done to us.
The relationship was like a sinking ship, and you know what? We should be thankful that they threw us off that ship before it sank, I'm glad that she didn't try to save me, because trust me I'm still swimming I haven't drowned yet, and her trigger was the ship that finally sank because unlike me she's now struggling to stay afloat.
Another great metaphor for you guys, cluster Bs walk around their whole life without tieing their laces, that's why they are constantly falling over, and each time they fall over that cut re opens, and eventually scars because emotionally they don't give their wounds time to heal. So don't be the one who has to constantly get on your knees to tie her laces back up, because they WILL get untied again. Let them fall over their laces because trust me, our laces are constantly tied, so from a psychological stand point don't let your ex give you the same treatment, and if she does but some better shoes! (Find someone better)
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JAMMO
Thank you for this post , I 'm thinking to write it down and read it when I have my moments !
Wonderful antibiotic prescription against their toxic behavior .
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I like that metaphor about getting on our knees to tie their laces, that is exactly what it was like. Down to the subservient position one would take being on their knees. And that is exactly where he wanted me to stay.
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When you get on your knees, your almost bowing to their toxicity, while you tie their laces back up as if to say, I won't let you fall again, I will look after you, they are looking down at us, thinking to themselves I have him/her exactly where I want them... .Below me! Like I stated before you must let them fall over again and again, think of it like this, the more they fall over the more their shoes get damaged, and just like us they will look for newer shoes. So yes, you can keep them from falling over by tieing their laces over and over, but eventualy, you will be the one that suffers mentally, and at the end of the day, your only going to be pro longing the need for them needin new shoes (looking for a new victim)
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