exBPD said she had very few past relationships

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

Hi

I was wondering if anyone else has or had a partner with BPD who said that they didn't have many past relationships.

Mine said that she had been with 4 guys before me (1st boyfriend for 4 years and lived with him, 2nd boyfriend - 2 months, 3rd boyfriend - 1 year, didn't live with him and 4th boyfriend - 2 months), and that things had not been intense or very affectionate with them. She was wildly intense and affectionate with me.

I do believe her and believe that she has lived alone mostly. Although the more I read on here, the more it seems that cheating and casual sex go hand in hand with the condition.

Can anyone relate to what I'm saying?

[H Hi]

Hi

I was wondering if anyone else has or had a partner with BPD who said that they didn't have many past relationships.

Mine said that she had been with 4 guys before me (1st boyfriend for 4 years and lived with him, 2nd boyfriend - 2 months, 3rd boyfriend - 1 year, didn't live with him and 4th boyfriend - 2 months), and that things had not been intense or very affectionate with them. She was wildly intense and affectionate with me.

I do believe her and believe that she has lived alone mostly. Although the more I read on here, the more it seems that cheating and casual sex go hand in hand with the condition.

Can anyone relate to what I'm saying?

[Aussie JJ]

hehehehe,

That's what she wants you to think, might be true, probably isn't.  Mine told me she hadn't been with many people.  She would then demand I get a STD check because of my sexual promiscuity... .

Projection.  I know of 7 people she has slept with from school that ONE friend knows about and that was 10 years ago.  Who knows in between... .

Out of your life, get her out of your mind.  I still am not there yet but working towards it. 


AJJ. 

[patientandclear]

My ex said "I always knew you were out there, and I was willing to be by myself until I found you."

It has the ring of him trying to convince himself (though it had a huge impact on me at the time).

With information I learned after he split, I can now interpret his statement as "I always knew you were out there, and I was willing to abandon an astonishing number of women until I met you."

[Rifka]

Hi

I was wondering if anyone else has or had a partner with BPD who said that they didn't have many past relationships.

Mine said that she had been with 4 guys before me (1st boyfriend for 4 years and lived with him, 2nd boyfriend - 2 months, 3rd boyfriend - 1 year, didn't live with him and 4th boyfriend - 2 months), and that things had not been intense or very affectionate with them. She was wildly intense and affectionate with me.

I do believe her and believe that she has lived alone mostly. Although the more I read on here, the more it seems that cheating and casual sex go hand in hand with the condition.

Can anyone relate to what I'm saying?

They are compulsive manipulating liars! Don't believe anything they say, if the mouth moves it's a lie that they convinced themselves is the truth, so it is!


Mine had 4 too! That's what he said! His ex wives had totally different numbers. Many pwBPD manipulate through pity me moments and excessive sex many times, then push and pull the sex and pour on the pity me as needed to keep you at the distance they want you. Don't believe anything they say, it's probably only their truth, which isn't real!

Mine was a freaky sex addict, a professional lover. He is the worlds biggest liar! Glad to be rid of him!

[Raybo48]

Yea, I would take what you were told with a extremely tiny grain of salt. 

Mine told me she was a "prude", and as time went on I found out she had been engaged 5 times and married once for less than a year.  That in itself isn't a huge    (except for the engagements maybe), but then as random names kept coming up as "ex-boyfriends" the list got incredibly long.  I don't know too many "prudes" that have been with dozens of guys... .   

If they are true BPD one thing is certain, they are all pathological liars and have an amazing ability to manipulate the truth. They have been used to lying or distorting the truth since childhood so it's natural for them.  It's how they function on a daily basis and I came to realize my BPDxgf lied constantly to me about anything.