The universe has a lull and she’s impressed me.

[PyneappleDays]

I don’t mean to be pessimistic but the BPD doesn’t go away.

So dd’s had her baby and she’s been doing ok that I can see.  I feel a little jilted because she prefers to stay with the father of the baby mother then me. She keeps saying she doesn’t like my husband.   It’s more because we’re parents and not friends.  Sorry sweetheart,   I’m a parent first. 

She does come over on Friday afternoon.  I would love it if she left the baby with me for a couple of hours and then on another day with just her.  She’s still in the center for help and school until the end of January.  So, moving in with the current bf and his mother is on hold for now.

She seems to very attentive and patient with the baby but she has chosen formula over breastfeeding.  I told her she needs to budget for that because I’m not paying for it.  We’ve had a couple of arguments over it.  It’s your baby your decision not my cost.  I’m a mean grandma.

She was to have a meeting and she wanted me to vouch for her so she could move out of the facility.  I said no.  I’ve attended all of these meetings but had pressing things at work.  So I could not attend.  Part of me thinks if she spends so much time at the other parents’ house why they couldn’t vouch for her.  For some reason I hold more clout.

Anyway I phoned the councillor and explained that I could not attend and I spend so little time with her, she spends more time with the other family.  I thought she would better benefit staying where she was until she got her own place then bouncing around like she did before.

On the day of the meeting after I got home I expected a monumental text and a screaming phone call.  I did not need this after the busy day I had.  So she phoned my husband answered it, I heard him chatting with her, it sounded very calm.  Did I mention she was chatting with the person she said I choose over her (which I hear so often)?  I get on the phone, she sweat calm and making arrangement for Friday as usual.  She told me what happened at the meeting.  I told her I was impressed.  She asked why?  I told her how she handled it and how calm the phone call was.  Her response "whatever see you Friday"

When you’re so use to having your back up against the wall with these kids they sometimes surprise you and you look crazy.

I hoping for more days like this but Xmas is coming up.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Kwamina]

Hello PyneappleDays

I don’t mean to be pessimistic but the BPD doesn’t go away.

Yes this is the unfortunate reality we all have to face one day. How do you feel about this? Do you feel like you've been able to accept the reality of your daughter having BPD and that this is something that she'll always carry around with her?

On the day of the meeting after I got home I expected a monumental text and a screaming phone call.  I did not need this after the busy day I had.  So she phoned my husband answered it, I heard him chatting with her, it sounded very calm.  Did I mention she was chatting with the person she said I choose over her (which I hear so often)?  I get on the phone, she sweat calm and making arrangement for Friday as usual.  She told me what happened at the meeting.  I told her I was impressed.  She asked why?  I told her how she handled it and how calm the phone call was.  Her response "whatever see you Friday"

When you’re so use to having your back up against the wall with these kids they sometimes surprise you and you look crazy.

I hoping for more days like this but Xmas is coming up.

You were surprised and impressed by how your daughter handled things and her calm response. Do you believe this might be a sign that she is improving a bit?

[PyneappleDays]

Yes this is the unfortunate reality we all have to face one day. How do you feel about this? Do you feel like you've been able to accept the reality of your daughter having BPD and that this is something that she'll always carry around with her?

I think I'm the parent in her life that has always accepted it and tried to work with who she is not what I want (although what I want is in the back of my mind).  I don't like it when she uses it as an excuse.

You were surprised and impressed by how your daughter handled things and her calm response. Do you believe this might be a sign that she is improving a bit?

Maybe, I think it's more like she getting a grasp on reality that she now has to make it on her own.  She has other means of support.  I'm not always her go to person.

I'm hoping the worst is behind us.