Old love letters and cards

[VIDEO: "What is parental alienation?"]

I packed up every card I had saved.  I packed up every photo in the house.  I packed up everything that was "us" and sent it to her.  I don't ever want to remind myself of how fake my relationship was.  That lesson has been learned. 

I wanted him to see them and remember the crap he had told me.  I also hoped that the replacement would see them too and that it would then spoil the effect if he sent her things like that.  She would already have seen the words before. 

This is very true - although the more I think about it the more I realize that all the words she wrote were just from books, tv shows, or wherever she got her "inspiration."  Nothing could ever just come from within.  She always needed a script. 

Hopefully my replacement will at least be able to read. 

[billypilgrim]

I packed up every card I had saved.  I packed up every photo in the house.  I packed up everything that was "us" and sent it to her.  I don't ever want to remind myself of how fake my relationship was.  That lesson has been learned. 

I wanted him to see them and remember the crap he had told me.  I also hoped that the replacement would see them too and that it would then spoil the effect if he sent her things like that.  She would already have seen the words before. 

This is very true - although the more I think about it the more I realize that all the words she wrote were just from books, tv shows, or wherever she got her "inspiration."  Nothing could ever just come from within.  She always needed a script. 

Hopefully my replacement will at least be able to read. 

[peiper]

I packed up every card I had saved.  I packed up every photo in the house.  I packed up everything that was "us" and sent it to her.  I don't ever want to remind myself of how fake my relationship was.  That lesson has been learned. 

I wanted him to see them and remember the crap he had told me.  I also hoped that the replacement would see them too and that it would then spoil the effect if he sent her things like that.  She would already have seen the words before. 

This is very true - although the more I think about it the more I realize that all the words she wrote were just from books, tv shows, or wherever she got her "inspiration."  Nothing could ever just come from within.  She always needed a script. 

Hopefully my replacement will at least be able to read. 

My replacement is welcome to everything he gets ,I just hope I'm not flying in his plane while he's getting it.

[slimmiller]

What if she meant it at the time and you fell for her as she fell for you.  So there is nothing to be ashamed of becuase the feelings were authentic.

I'm not ashamed in the least. Just ticked at myself for being duped. I saw the red flags but chose to ignore them. So it's on me.

When we are deceived we should get mad. It makes no differenece wether they meant to or not, a wrong is a wrong and if we pretent it isnt we turn the venom they doled out inward and thats way more dangerous then getting pi$sed. Getting angry and getting it out in a healthy way is the first step in healing and preventing it from repeating, plus it allows us to start taking care of ourselves vs getting sucked back in or suckered by the next PD

I am mad as Hell at my ex and part of it is from letting it pile up as long as I did. I did no one any favors by doing so and that includes her. My true healing started since I am mad. Before that, it festered