Hello. For years the craziness has gone on. Who is saying what to whom and when and where and why? That is how my extended family has functioned. It truly is sad as a couple of very disturbed family members can wreak havoc on a family. Create an atmosphere of mistrust, chaos, hurt & drama.
Many of us here have identified the disfunction in our families and emotionally/psychologically realize that there are families that exist that are supportive and often kind and loving. Unlike the families we grew up with, we see that all the craziness or meaness or disloyalty doesn't exist in all families. We see the bigger picture of life. Call it an evolution or perhaps a revolution. Yes, we are choosing to overthrow the existing "norm" or regime and replace it with a new constitution that includes: (I) The right to feel happy (II) the right to love one another (III) support each other and actually (IV) the right to enjoy life.
What? A compliment?  :)id you pay me a compliment? Wow! Oh my and I just got a hug. Can YOU imagine that. **** I am providing a stable and calm household for my kids? Unheard of! ******I am providing a place of peace in my home. A voice of reason and discussion. A place of consistency and non continuous drama *****
How do we do this? There is yet only one way. To let go of the old. Build your fort people. Once you have your own circle around you stay on the inside. You can be the observer now. This will allow you to step out of the patterns of responsive behavior. Like trained rats we all have emotional responses to those people in our lives that have been a steady source of negativity. What say you? I say this. stop participating in the drama and watch. BE the observer and no longer the participant. People with BPD need responses. They will most likely move onto someone else. But nonetheless you won't be an active participant in the chaos of negativity that keeps us from having a peaceful life.
No, I am not a professional. Just a person that has been granted the lessons in this life of having some troubled souls to deal with.