I am planning on filing for divorce in January. This roller coaster has finally gained enough insight to head for new tracks. I have given this relationship so many chances to improve but there is little hope other than to accept her or move on. I am choosing to move on.
She has made many threats in the past of destroying my things and creating overall havoc in my world. None of which have come true. I do live in fear of this woman and I do think that once papers are served that my life will be a living hell for quite some time.
To ease the transition of living together I might wait until she is out of town at a workshop or seminar and plan the move out for that week. That way I can safely remove my things, and none of hers, to storage or a new apartment. It would be the most peaceful way to exit but I'm not sure it's totally right to do to her. Abandonment issues will be tested to the max.
My question is to all of you: Should I move out when she is out of town or do it when she is around? Both have interesting consequences.
maybe do the soft landing approach and tell her that you think separation will improve your relationship. you just need time to sort some stuff out. will that work? anyone who has gone through it, please provide some input.