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I'm looking for suggestions from members and books on Buddhism, Zen, Mindfulness that they could share with me for my personal reading. Thank you!
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If you like a little science mixed with your mindfulness: "Mindfulness" by Mark Williams
'Peace is Every Step' by Thich Naht Hanh (and anything by Thich Naht Hanh)
'Awakening to the Sacred' by Lama Surya Das
'Awakening the Buddha Within' by Lama Surya Das
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Thank you
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! Nah I don't mind science and technical stuff. I'll take a look at your suggestions on Amazon. I feel like I'm at stage 5 with detachment. 2015 is around the corner ( 2013, half of 2014 are write offs
years that I'd rather soon forget ) and I'm really looking forward to the New Year. It's time to leave the past in the past and start tackling life. I feel great and I felt like I had some bouts of minor depression with the separation. I feel like the mind, heart and spirit are aligned.
I have plans in mind for myself and my kids that I want to get done as well as other plans with work etc. I'm so happy I found bpdfamily and mindfulness, detachment really helped me with coping and moving forwaed. There's profound wisdom with Zen and I'm interested in learning more. I owe it to Zen Buddhism for changing my life and how I think and react to people in life.
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That's awesome Mutt, a new year and a new beginning for both of us! It's funny, I have read many books about mindfulness and Buddhism over the years but I found out this year that I had to do the dirty work underneath before I can expect to move into this detached place. What I had thought was doing the work was trying to bypass the pain. It's been quite the year! I'm still a work in progress but moving forward, looking forward to 2015 and discovering all that is in store for us!
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Quote from: Pingo on November 29, 2014, 06:52:41 PM
If you like a little science mixed with your mindfulness: "Mindfulness" by Mark Williams
'Peace is Every Step' by Thich Naht Hanh (and anything by Thich Naht Hanh)
'Awakening to the Sacred' by Lama Surya Das
'Awakening the Buddha Within' by Lama Surya Das
I gotta agree with peace is every step, honestly I should read it again myself! Also, if you've never read it, Siddhartha is a great and short book. It's the story of Buddha and it helps to justify mindfulness, letting go and being simple.
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I will also recommend "Peace is every step."
For better or for worse, I've done very little reading. I've listened to a lot of Dharma talks, many on my own retreats, in a sangha that met for meditation and a recorded talk, not having a teacher, and others downloaded off the internet.
I've also read some of "I AM THAT" Dialogues of Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj
I do not know that he considered himself Buddhist. I do know that my Buddhist teacher described everything he said as being pure Dharma.
I went back to daily meditation recently, if only 15 minutes or less. Now that I'm back from my trip I'll resume--I missed a few days.
Mutt, I hope you are practicing as well as reading--The reading is more enjoyable for me, but the practice is more important.
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Great recommendations!
Pingo
she I got here I came across a Brené Brown quote early to lean into the pain. I'm happy that I did.
Grey Kitty
I practice Mindfulness nearly on a daily basis. I'm interested in continuing. Do you mean mediation?
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How to See Your Self as You Really Are
by Tenzen Gyatso. Any book written by this man is a wealth with regard to personal development. This one has meditative reflection included.
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I've read more than 25 books in the past year. Everything from Dale Carnegie to Socrates. Only a couple fiction books. Everything else has been philosophy, psychology, self awareness, and spirituality. Everything from Ospensky and Gurdjieff to M Scott Peck. If I had the time I would read every book ever written just to see what our potential is. Books are good. Books are knowledge. Someone said that every time an old man dies a library burns down.
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Quote from: Perfidy on November 30, 2014, 12:40:21 AM
I've read more than 25 books in the past year. Everything from Dale Carnegie to Socrates. Only a couple fiction books. Everything else has been philosophy, psychology, self awareness, and spirituality. Everything from Ospensky and Gurdjieff to M Scott Peck. If I had the time I would read every book ever written just to see what our potential is. Books are good. Books are knowledge. Someone said that every time an old man dies a library burns down.
Ditto! Books have possibly become an addiction for me
. I just asked the library to order two new books for me today and I get such a thrill when they finally arrive! Almost all have been psychology books this last year, I feel like I've received a great education!
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I've listened to many Dharma talks by Michele McDonald, both recorded and on retreats with her. If you spent time in your car, she wrote an audio book "Awake at the Wheel: Mindful Driving". I don't have enough suitable driving time in my life to purchase it, and give a first-hand recommendation/review, so I found
one on the net here
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I also have a lot of respect for Pema Chödrön. I haven't read any of her books, so I can't recommend anything specific for you.
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I practice Mindfulness nearly on a daily basis. I'm interested in continuing. Do you mean mediation?
My practice is simple sitting (mindfulness) meditation. Over the years I've done two 10-day retreats, a few shorter ones, and my newly restarted daily practice.
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I'd recommend any book written by Cheri Huber, particularly
The Fear Book
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The Depression Book
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The Places That Scare You
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Hey Mutt, I recommend the following:
Wherever You Go, There You Are,
by Jon Kabat-Zinn;
Iron John,
by Robert Bly; and
The Art of Possibility,
by Rosamund Stone Zander and Benjamin Zander.
I've reread these books several times and have found them tremendously helpful.
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Interesting topic Mutt,
For me I'm trying all the ACT stuff and implementing on a daily basis. Some of its still hard changing old patterns, essentially mindfulness again with this model. A fair bit becoming second nature now.
www.bookdepository.com/Happiness-Trap-Dr-Russ-Harris/9781845298258
www.bookdepository.com/Act-Made-Simple-Dr-Russ-Harris/9781572247055
This is really interesting to me, the toltec south american stuff. Essentially much the same as mindfulness in many regards however I like the values in these books. Very simple, basic down to earth wisdom.
www.bookdepository.com/Four-Agreements-Don-Miguel-Ruiz/9781878424310
www.bookdepository.com/Fifth-Agreement-Don-Miguel-Ruiz/9781878424617
There is a book on radical acceptance that I borrowed form the library, dont know what its called. This was very good as well. This below I havent had the chance to read, I am going to buy it and a few others in a couple months when settlement is through and I have some cash again.
www.bookdepository.com/Thinking-Fast-Slow-Daniel-Kahneman/9780141033570
www.bookdepository.com/Power-Habit-Charles-Duhigg/9781847946249
Yes I do order a lot of books from that website I have found it to be pretty much in the middle of being expensive and being reasonable. Most of the time the prices they have are round about the same as many others and they have free shipping.
AJJ.
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I appreciate all of the recommendations everyone! Mindfulness, Buddhism and Zen helped me with healing. I wanted to ask the old fashion way here. What's everyone reading that helped them? Thank you.
2015 is around the corner. I feel like I'm stage 5 of detaching. To quote one of my favorite songs.
Sometimes you kick. Sometimes you get kicked.
It's time to kick.
I'm excited for 2015 and beyond
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Quote from: Mutt on December 04, 2014, 11:09:36 AM
I appreciate all of the recommendations everyone! Mindfulness, Buddhism and Zen helped me with healing. I wanted to ask the old fashion way here. What's everyone reading that helped them? Thank you.
2015 is around the corner. I feel like I'm stage 5 of detaching. To quote one of my favorite songs.
Sometimes you kick. Sometimes you get kicked.
It's time to kick.
I'm excited for 2015 and beyond
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Mindsight by Dr. Dan Siegel
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I am guessing you musrt have read Zen and the art of motorcycle mechanics
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Also for something a bit different nietzsche beyond good an evil is probably something all those into Zen should at least look at
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Quote from: SlyQQ on December 07, 2014, 07:27:55 AM
Also for something a bit different nietzsche beyond good an evil is
probably something all those into Zen should at least look at
I like that SlyQQ. Thanks.
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One thing really interesting about Zen Buddhism is always see the ouroboros symbol associated with it. If one follows the symbol of the ouroboros it can illuminate much.
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