Is my ex BPD? And how do I move on or get her back?

[Joshuaua]

So I was with my ex for about a year... Off and on OVCOURSE. We where coworkers/friends for 4 years before the relationship. She always seemed like my dream girl and asked her out for years til she said yes. The first few months where long distance as I'd moved. I went to visit her and had my first red flag. She'd lied and looked through my cell phone. I let that go... Eventually she moved across the country and we lived together. Everything was great for a while then the "splitting" started and so did the Breakups. She was extremely jealous, paranoid and scared of being controlled and manipulated. I was unable to even look at my phone with hearing "are you talking to your little ___s?" "I know you're with me for now then you'll leave me" "don't think you can EVER control me.  No man can" etcetc. Then one night we got in a physical blow up after having an AMAMZING night together. Over the months we went through break ups, NC from her during them. Then she'd always come back. Yet once we started clicking it would always blow up again. She slept with a guy during one breakup. Eventually after a year we both decided we'd put eachother through enough torture and broke up.  A month later she called and I was uninterested. Another 2 months later she called and missed me but had a new BF. She visited me for a week and we hooked up and reconnected. She broke up with him but remained friends. Then one day she split and hated me and left town and went back to this new boyfriend. And that's where I am now... I feel torn. Can anyone make sense of this?

[Jmanster]

Don't talk to her again... .she wants to keep you around constantly in case her other relationships don't work out. She has traits of BPD. These people always want attention and always want to fall back to some guy who is naive enough to take them back. Be a man and stand up for yourself. I was not a man and didn't stand up for myself and the ending result was devastation and massive amounts of paranoia. Once I stopped talking to my ex and started to move on with my life, she started to contact me again. They cannot stand being alone.

[Joshuaua]

Don't talk to her again... .she wants to keep you around constantly in case her other relationships don't work out. She has traits of BPD. These people always want attention and always want to fall back to some guy who is naive enough to take them back. Be a man and stand up for yourself. I was not a man and didn't stand up for myself and the ending result was devastation and massive amounts of paranoia. Once I stopped talking to my ex and started to move on with my life, she started to contact me again. They cannot stand being alone.

Do you think I should tell her boyfriend that she cheated on him with me or just let it go? And it's  please read               |ty how she just threw him in my face... When we where back together she said she'll never stop loving me... I'm at a different level then him... Best sex she's ever had etc  but then she splits and suddenly he's so amamzing. You're right tho, I can't let myself get caught up in this anymore. There where times she'd follow me around for hours in my face yelling awful  please read               | to me.

[Joshuaua]

Don't talk to her again... .she wants to keep you around constantly in case her other relationships don't work out. She has traits of BPD. These people always want attention and always want to fall back to some guy who is naive enough to take them back. Be a man and stand up for yourself. I was not a man and didn't stand up for myself and the ending result was devastation and massive amounts of paranoia. Once I stopped talking to my ex and started to move on with my life, she started to contact me again. They cannot stand being alone.

Do you think I should tell her boyfriend that she cheated on him with me or just let it go? And it's  please readty how she just threw him in my face... When we where back together she said she'll never stop loving me... I'm at a different level then him... Best sex she's ever had etc  but then she splits and suddenly he's so amamzing. You're right tho, I can't let myself get caught up in this anymore. There where times she'd follow me around for hours in my face yelling awful  please read to me.